Hi. I am sorry and understand the emotional rollercoaster and fears as well. It is normal. A few thoughts I have is to see if you can have a PM apt set and possibly to just go in and hear what the person has to say. You are not commiting but you can hear your options and at least you have something in case the pain is not helped with meds. Treatment of this asap is very key. As you go to doctors you will have questions and concerns and it is a good idea before the apt to write them down so you don't forget. Bring a paper and pen with you too. Also all test results and records you should bring to your apts. Can your husband go with you? I think you really need to tell him what you need and how to help. There are books and even support groups to go to inperson for family and suffers. Maybe you can print off info off the net to give hime to read. Please hang in there