Your message broke my heart. I know counseling is more money and although it sounds like a lot of the fights seem to be about money, that's ususally just an easier thing to fight about rather than what the underlying reason is. He sounds very resentful but maybe that's just a cover up for feeling insecure about being able to take care of his family and no matter what we promise during our wedding ceremony, we don't know what life is going to throw at us; it makes those times easier when each can be suportive of each other but there may be some thought that this wasn't how it was supposed to be and fear. It could be his upbringing that the man works and so it's his money. In my last marriage money seemed to be the problem...my money was his and his money was his, but the reality was his inability to handle finances (I ended up payings hundreds and hundres in overdrafts) that he just blew off, but there were bigger unlaying problems but it was easier to argue over something that seemed so tangible. Do you have anyone to talk to, who recognizes the amazing person you are and emotionally support you. The stress has to also be ascerbating your RSD which then may necessitate additional medical visits and costs. We had a nurse where I work who was horrendously disfigures in a house fie. She did a video to her congressman as her Social Security Disability had also been denied. He stepped in and very soon after was approved. Our children are our blessing and I know exactly how she keeps you alive. I wanted to die when we left my first husband having to move 3000 miles across the country to survive, then I was a victim of an intruder rape, followed by loss of my job and everything we owned. That all just in a 10 year period, but taking care of my son gave me the strength to go on and now with RSD, he still is a reason to keep going. Keep writing when you need to, we'll listen and at least let you know we care. ONE MOEMENT CAN CHANGE EVERYTHING!