Tracy,
You've had a bunch of great ideas, there.
Carry on with them, and be patient.
Give it time.

Your daughter is going to do what you do, not what you say.

So, be kind and gentle, and this peacefulness will roll over into your own health.
You'll feel better.
Stop blaming yourself.

You sound as if you have a pretty good plan, and it might just take some time.

You're in our prayers!

Pete
asb