Tracy, Whatever you do dont give up. I just cant believe how much you have going on in your home. Its alot for a healthy person to deal with. We all change & unfortunatly you did not ask for this change. But it doesnt give your husband the right to treat you with disrepect. You are a strong women to have dealt with it this long. I hope the letter helps. If not you will have gotten your feelings on paper & he will have at least known how you felt. With all the good changes in your precious daughter & all the help she has been to you why not write her one too. Something positive she can carry with her the rest of her life. So she knows how important she is to you. It will proabably become one of her prized posessions. I really hope things get better. I am so sorry your husband can be so cruel. I hope you find the soft spot in his heart & reawaken it. Wish I was there to do this in person.
Hugs, Denny

PS I dont pray alot but I will say a prayer for you. I hope thats okay.