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Originally Posted by weegot5kiz
we are going through this right now with my eldest son and his fiance and her family, and their upcoming wedding, they dont understand why i cant stay longer or why the heat from cooking all day at their place is too much for me ect.... ect.... I actually texted him this morning and told him to do me a favor and look at what MS is and get his head out of the sand, well the word i used rhymes with glass, only thing i can figure is he is in denial, my so called friends dropped me like i had AID's ages ago when I was DX'ed, so that showed me how much they were my friends, as for feeling guilty i dont anymore, they can all, as you so poetically put it
BITE ME  |
I don't think it's denial, honestly. I think it's just they don't understand and it's a wedding and they want everyone to be involved. It's great that they want you all involved.
Your son, they know. They are probably just getting to know you. It will take time for those who don't get it to try and understand. If they don't, just go about your way doing what you can and let it ride. It's not worth it in the long run and in reality, your son will have to live with them the rest of their lives as long as he's married in the family. Maybe it would be better to let your son try to explain to them how your ms affects you so not to cause tension in the family for him.
Jim and I explain to people and if they still don't get it we just pass it off as ignorance and go about our way. It's much easier that way. We have a wedding to go to in June but I explained that it would be easier for Jim to just come to the after wedding bonfire because being up all day would wear him out. Our son is in the wedding and we really wanted to go but knew it would be hard on Jim. They understood and have me helping get the bonfire ready and Jim can stay home and rest until it starts. We got lucky.