Oh Pete, I am soooo sorry for all this pain & emotional distress! First thing I would do,,,Copy this very post you wrote & email it to your lawyer! Let her SEE this! It might give her great insight!
As far as that "wife"...YES, Thank GOD right now for getting you out of her life!!! You may have lost so very much, but don't let her take ANYMORE of YOU!

Don't lose your Faith...please...keep reaching, ....I think by posting you just took a huge step! Good luck to you & keep us posted..I will Pray for you my friend