You're doing the very best thing by NOT doing anything more for him. I've been sober almost 24 years now, but I couldn't realize I was an alcoholic till I didn' t have anyone or anything left. I had to hit bottom----and hit it hard----before it gots my attention that I really did have a problem. All the people in recovery that I know had to do the same thing.

Take care of you. And check out Al-Anon. It will help you learn how to take care of yourself instead of trying to take care of your son. You're loving him to death quite literally if you keep picking up the pieces and trying to help him. If an alcoholic doesn't get sober, they're going to die, so if you keep helping, you're actually helping him die. It's very hard to practice tough love. I know because I have addicted kids and I lost my husband to a relapse with heroin almost 9 years ago.

I'll keep you and your son in my prayers. I know how you feel because I've been there. Just take it one day at a time and educate yourself about alcoholism. The internet is a great resource. And I can't urge you strongly enough to check out Al-Anon. It's a wonderful support system.