Silent2,

Have you had any serious diagnosis of your condition? Especially an neuropsych assessment? When my wife read my neuropsych report, she finally understood. She wrote a long letter to our three grown children explaining my symptoms and how they were effecting my relationships for our entire 29 year marriage. She could see my slow deterioration and personality changes from minor head bumps.Two of our three children accepted her explanation and can now accept my condition and occasional melt-downs. The third ( Daddy's girl) has PTSD from a year in Iraq so she cannot get her own life figured out enough to understand mine.

Those who are not prone to dump on you should come around to understanding your condition if you can help them understand your diagnosis. Family that expect you to carry the load in a relationship with reject you.

You cannot carry those relationships with needy people. You have enough work just carrying your own load.

As you struggle with the clutter, try to focus on just one small area of your place. If your mind is working like mine, it gets overwhelmed with 'Where do I start.' Ask your friend to help you get things organized. If she knows you just need help staying on task, it just might work.

Explain that with memory problems, we tend to fear losing things if we put them out of sight.

Download and print out Dr. Glen Johnson's TBI Guide ate www.tbiguide.com.

have you friends and family read it. It may wake them up to your realities.

Hope this helps. Maintaining the old relationships after a brain injury can be tough.