I found this on Passive Agressive.
Sorry that I am only in the mood to post links today.
(I thought I already posted this but can't find it. If it is a double post, I apologize again. Time for nap.
http://www.mcg.edu/students/mentalhealth/PAbehavior.htm
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Passive-Aggressive Behavior
People with passive-aggressive behaviors show hostility and aggression in passive ways. Their aim is to resist job and social demands. Examples of passive-aggressive behaviors are:
-Forgetting to do something on purpose
-Making a habit of putting off or being late with social and/or job tasks
-Failing to do one’s share of the work or doing sub-standard work on purpose
-Having a constant negative attitude
-Criticizing authority figures, not openly, but in subtle ways
The goal of passive-aggressive behavior is to frustrate the wishes of others and make others angry. This anger is most often directed at bosses, roommates, spouses, parents, teachers, or anyone who has power or authority. But, sometimes, people are not aware that their behavior is purposeful.
What leads to passive-aggressive behavior?
Some researchers think that these behaviors stem from certain childhood experiences.
They believe that parents who were aggressive and exercised complete control over their child did not let the child express himself or herself. This may have pushed the child into adopting passive-aggressive behavior patterns to cope. If, for example, the child openly disagreed with the parent and was punished for doing so, the child learned to substitute passive resistance for active resistance.
A person who shows a lot of passive-aggressive behavior can have a Passive-Aggressive Personality Disorder. A person with this disorder:
+Is irritable, defensive, and resentful
+Lacks self-confidence
+Has a hard time getting pleasure from relationships with others
+Feels others are making unreasonable demands on him or her, but thinks he or she is doing a better job than what they are given credit for
+Blames others for his or her problems
+Is not aware that his or her self-defeating behaviors are part of their personality
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