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Originally Posted by SandyC
I don't think it's denial, honestly. I think it's just they don't understand and it's a wedding and they want everyone to be involved. It's great that they want you all involved.  Your son, they know. They are probably just getting to know you. It will take time for those who don't get it to try and understand. If they don't, just go about your way doing what you can and let it ride. It's not worth it in the long run and in reality, your son will have to live with them the rest of their lives as long as he's married in the family. Maybe it would be better to let your son try to explain to them how your ms affects you so not to cause tension in the family for him. |
Good advice, Sandy. I've been talking to my son's future MIL and she is trying so hard to be understanding of my MS. His GF spends many a night here at my house since she works only a couple of miles from here so I know she tells her Mom how things really are for me....which I don't mind. It helps in fact. Her Mom actually said to me today that she doesn't want me to feel left out of the wedding planning but doesn't want me to feel obligated to do things that I know I just cannot do. She asked me how I'd prefer to handle this.....which I thought was so nice. I told her as long as she understood when I had to decline an invitation she could just include me as she would everyone else.....I'd just have to play it by ear and take things a day at a time. She really is a sweet person and is trying hard to be respectful of my limitations.
Frank, if her family isn't familiar with MS this will be a perfect time to educate them......but you'll just have to be patient and understand that even for us MS was a mystery when we were first dx and even now we're still learning about it. Give them a chance and you might be surprised! Good luck!