((((((((((((Holly))))))))))))))))
I think we have all been at that point of questioning why? and where are You, God?
A book that really ministered to me is "Where is God when it Hurts" by Philip Yancey
RBC ministries also have some great free download booklets in their Discovery series and one that touches on this is here
http://www.rbc.org/bible-study/disco...8030&Topic=874
I will be praying for you and grandma....that she will be at peace and not suffering anymore and that the Lord will wrap you in His Love and reassure you.