I know it's easy to say, but please don't feel bad. I don't know how you can even THINK of taking care of someone when you need care yourself! I agree, you need to find a way to get a break. With a TBI, loud noises, too much activity, and the emotional stress are not going to be good for you. My husband is doing really well with recovery from his year old TBI and has unfortunately been thrust into having to take care of me (I'm in a bout with my neurologic disease since February). I can see how it's affecting him.

Is there a senior center near you that has activities? Maybe a few hours with people her age, doing something enjoyable would be good for her AND give you the break you need. Or, can you get drop in help through healthcare? Do you know of any seniors in your neighborhood that maybe you could introduce your mom to? I know my mom really looks forward to being with people her own age on occassion.

I hope you can find a good solution - you don't need to be kicking yourself - it's not good for your head ! And bless you for taking so much on so unselfishly!

Hugs and kisses. To you and your mother.