I was just reading something in what is perhaps a paper... Christianity Today. I'm not sure really because I'm not actually Christian myself, however that never stopped me reading and learning about what others believe in.
Last night I was actually looking for something in particular for a friend of ours here, but came across this instead... Reminded me of the poem Alffe posted in another thread called "Listen".
Trauma and Recovery, Judith Herman writes,
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Beyond the issues of shame and doubt, traumatized people struggle to arrive at a fair and reasonable assessment of their conduct, finding a balance between unrealistic guilt and denial of all moral responsibility. In coming to terms with issues of guilt, the survivor needs the help of others who are willing to recognize that a traumatic event has occurred, to suspend their preconceived judgments, and simply to bear witness to her tale. When others can listen without ascribing blame, the survivor can accept her own failure to live up to ideal standards at the moment of extremity. Ultimately, she can come to a realistic judgment of her conduct and a fair attribution of responsibility.
Survivors need time and space to come to a realistic self-assessment. I trust that for me, the crucible will forge a better person, and lead to peace.
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Please don't read the whole article if you are feeling particularly vunerable at the moment. However, I shall post it here.
http://www.christianitytoday.com/ct/...ril/27.38.html
In the Valley of the Shadow of Suicide
A mother catches glimmers of hope after losing a son.
Christine A. Scheller | posted 4/24/2009 11:02AM