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Join Date: May 2007
Location: Around
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Legendary
Join Date: May 2007
Location: Around
Posts: 10,109
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Hey Holly! Well, let me tell ya, I beat myself up when my Mother became very ill and then passed. I questioned whether there was something I may have missed, did I take her to the right Dr's, what could I have done different, etc.
Then, when Hospice started the morphine drip, I felt guilty b/c we asked them to keep it turned up to keep her comfortable. I had to blame someone for her illness and consequent death, so decided it was going to be me.
What I'm trying to say, Holly, is~ don't do what I did. I dwelled on the ''what ifs'' all b/c I couldn't prevent Mom's death. It wasn't my choice and I knew that it was God's will to take her home. I loved her enough to keep her as comfortable as possible and to eventually ''let her go''. It took me a while, actually a long while, but I finally got it.
You G'mother knows how much she is loved and that's all that matters right now; that and keeping her comfortable, which is what you are doing. We had pillows all around Mother's frail lil body to keep her as cushioned as possible.
Hang in there Holly and just remember her as the loving G'ma she's always been and how very blessed you both have been to have each other. You know I'm sending  to you.
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