Originally Posted by Mirror1

Dear Almondface,
Whatever happened to you is not your fault. You are not the problem, the abuser is the one who is less than and has the problem. I too grew up in an abusive family and it made me very angry and doubt my self worth. Years later, I get that it was never about me. There is nothing I could have done to anticipate the abuse. I have found that I have a family of "origin" and a family of "choice" and I chose to be around much healthier people. I have trust issues as well, but I try to mirror and be what I want to attract in my life. I try to be the trust and integrity that I want in my relationships because I know that the fear of distrust could attract exactly what I don't want in my life. You are strong. Keep believing in the good in people and being the good. We are all here to help.