Jacquelina,
I'm so sorry for your circumstances... your losses, and now this type of decision.

You had one tos surgery, how has that worked? Any results positive or negative?

Why are the docs telling you this needs to be done so quickly?

(I'm in a stage in life where decisions are making me want to crawl under a blanket, I understand the feeling of panic..)
Even with surgery, (And don't folks with RSD hafto have ketamine, like that used during a surgery? to suppress the spread?) you're left with microscopic scar tissue where the nerves and vein system run through scar tissue, and "abrade" themselves during movement. The surgery can't do anything to help that.
I've had tos and rsd for 27 years. I've lost lots of muscle to the natural atrophy after the accident. Just like the good doctors told me I would. I've never had any surgery, I'm afraid to death of it!

Relax and get some time for yourself.
I feel your pain, and this news apparently has it ramped way up.

I don't know why you need to rush, I think you need some neuropsych care, if you can get it.
I hope you can.
We're all here for you anyway.


Pete
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