Schneidman believed suicidal tendencies could often begin to be untangled by asking two simple questions: "Where do you hurt?" and "How may I help you?"

We have come to learn a new language Alffe. It has its own terminology I would never have thought to be in my vocabulary. We’ve joined an exclusive club. It is one I’d rather read about than be a member of. It’s not very difficult to join. You don’t need a lot of money or education. It doesn’t take an act of God or Congress, just an act of a sad, depressed person……All it takes is a suicide.

The wounds we suffer from the suicide of a loved one will heal in time. It is the scarring that will affect us forever.