There is an excellent book I would recommend called

Transforming the Difficult Child: The Nurtured Heart Approach
by Howard Glasser

There's also another one but I've not read it. It comes highly recommended to me by a very special person and I trust their opinion. I just haven't had the dollars or the time to read it yet. It seems to be more of a book about her whole journey as a parent rather than a type of parenting manual though.

"A Special Education" By Dana Buchman.