I can relate to this and for me I try to just focus on the good supports I do have and the ones who stay stupid things that they don't understand. I try to educate them but after a point it does no good. For ex when I went to Fl I was yelled at and told I would never be better by my gramps and his gf because I don't do yoga which I can't at this time. I said that and then asked them what I suffer from and they still after 2 years had no idea. Or I am blamed for why I have this.Anyhow my mom though on another note always points on my strengths and how I have made progress so I try to focus on that. I am sorry you and others face the same. I wish people who were clueless would just not add their 2 cents. Really the best thing I think is to just call and say hi and a check in not to preach.