It takes time...but one thing you seem to have is the will to live as normal a life as possible...
now you need your family to get on board. You want to live a fulfilled life. Tell them this. They are scared for you, I'm sure, and don't want you to overdo...but as you learn your capabilities and your limitations, you will feel more in control.
We only get this very moment...the past is gone, the future is not here yet. Learn to appreciate the moment...and quietly go and live the life YOU want to live. Good luck!