When my dd stared highschool one of the teacher had this huge sheet of paper on the wall in the class room. At the end of the year she gave the big sheet of paper to my dd who has it taped on her bedroom wall.
It reads in big blue letters...
"
WHAT YOU SEE
IS WHAT YOU GET
WARTS AND ALL
BAD BREATH
FITS OF ANGER
MOMENTS OF FORGETFULLNESS
AFRAID
BUT HIDNING IT
WANTING TO BE LOVED
TRYING HARD TO
LOVE
A WORK IN PROGRESS"
I know it helped my dd maybe it will help you too.