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Old 06-17-2009, 07:53 AM
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Note---I copied this over from Children's Health Forum so that more people might read and help Lisa.... Abbie

From Lisa:
My son will be 13 in October. Diagnosed w/Anxiety two years ago when we had him hospitalized for school refusal, as well as loss of interest in any activity outside of our home.

Had a good school year last year, little to no anxiety. This year, moved to middle school (many more kids, larger building), will not stay at school. Refuses to go w/o mom or dad, and when we leave building he follows. Has only been to a couple of classes since the start of the school year four weeks ago. Has always been advanced academically, has always had a lot of friends, and has always done very well in any sport he tries.

We are working w/counselors and he is now on Lexapro which we have been titrating up. Still no school. We keep taking him, he now stays in the building with out a parent, but for only one period where he sits in the guidance counselors office the entire period, because he cannot make himself enter the classroom.

We are at the point of feeling like his anxiety has become a crutch, and he won't try to fight his anxiety. He is in enrolled in a day hospital where he receives therapy daily for the half day he is not supposed to be in school, along w/med checks and group work.

My husband and I are losing our patients, we feel he should be much further along by now. He needs to go back to school. What else should we do? We only allow him computer time (his favorite thing) if he goes to class, which he hasn't had in about three weeks. It doesn't seem to be enough incentive. Perhaps we should take away all privledges until he complies. we were giving him video games for going into the counseling center without grief each day.

HELP!
Lisa
We have been through the same when my daughter was 12 nearly 13. The pressure of school had a big impact on her. When anxiety is untreated it gets worse and stay with in adulthood. The usual health service help did not work. Afetr much research it was clear that what she needed was Cognitive Behaviour Therapy. I sought one out that specialised in adolescent. She started therapy this time last year. Immediately there was improvement. There were a couple of lapses along the way but we carried on with the therapist. She is strong and confident and doesnt need therapy now but we know where to go if there is any problems.

I also hired her a tutors in some of her subjects. This gave her a confidence boost. She is now very happy, looking forward to her future and enjoys schools. She is now 14. I highly recommend you get you son a Cognitive Behaviour Therapist who specialised in adolescents. Good Luck.
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