Hi Bryanna ~ ( & anyone with advice )

I have been lurking for a bit.. you have great advice !! I am a newbie ready for advice. I will give you my dental background :

I am 38 yr old female. Advanced periodental disease. Smoker my entire life. ( quit 3 months ago ). Very good health otherwise.
Family history of periodental disease : Mom - teeth out at 38 -dentures
Aunt - most teeth out at 45 - dentures
Grandpa - teeth out at 42 - dentures
Very infrequent trips to dentist.

I have recently been told I need full mouth extraction. 2/3 to 3/4 of bone loss. Not much for shrinkage to gums. My teeth are not that decayed... just have lost so much bone they tell me it won't hold teeth forever. No pain or bleeding even.

I want full dental implants.

Here is what my periodontist and dentist have suggested -

first step: fabrication of immediate detures ( for when they remove all my teeth )
second step: full dental extraction, bone graft EVERY tooth socket and sinus augmentation.
third step 4 months later implant 8 lower and 8 upper endosteal implants.
forth step 3 months later attach fixed dental bridgework

The only concern he has is because of loss of bone in upper jawbone, the length of final upper restoration may appear as though the teeth are longer than normal. He says there may be other restorative options if this is a concern to me.

Well, the final quote was $ 98,000.

YES, I am concerned that after $98,000 the upper teeth look longer than normal !! I am hoping for your thoughts on this?? Have you heard of this.. and why wouldn't he quote me this "OTHER" option to begin with?? After all... $ 98,000 should be the CADILLAC of restorative treatment..?? YIKES...

I am also hoping you can give me an idea of HOW MANY full mouth dental implants surgeries performed would be considered an EXPERIENCED level??

Considering I am willing on spending $ 98,000 and need FULL MOUTH.. I want to find the most experienced dentist in this arena possible. ( AS WELL AS ONE WHO IS CONCERNED WITH THE BEST LOOK AT COMPLETION )

Any questions you think I should address with him or any other dentists I am considering ?? I want to speak with a few dentists...

Any suggestions would so be appreciated ~