I'll just say what I should said to my brothers after their first divorces.
And I should have said it again after their second divorces!

Just look for a friend first, and take your time, there is no reason to rush into anything.

There is much less chance of getting hurt if you do take the time to know the real person before you give your heart.

It can take 2 years before 2 people are real with each other.

this time frame does depend on how often you see each other and how much time you are actually spending together ...

and if it's an exclusive relationship vs "seeing others"