Hi you are definately in a hard place. Personally I'm glad that her husband allowed her to come back to him. I'm of the opinion it maybe that he is the only one that can get through to her. It sounds so weird but when a person has bipolar at times its the person that has helped to make them stable that can work with them the best.

I realize how much you want to be there for her too. And how hard it is.

I have a grown son that had issues that were so close to bipolar but he has been on medication since 16 and is doing well. He is now 26 going on 27.

He is with a woman that has been his salvation at times. But also at times she gives him a hard time too. But he has a little boy that is 7 and he is good for both of them.

Keep hope for her, and look for a program or psychiatrist that can get through to her.

If you need to talk come to the bipolar forum. We are pretty active and we understand. And will listen.

Donna