Barbara,
You only have broken dreams as you did not give Bobby your heart to break it. You were a good friend to him, dearer then others as he shared a lot with you. But you never fellin love with each other for him to break it, only the dreams and hopes were shattered.
Your heart is really intact......He knew you liked him, but chose to be distanced this weekend.

Misreading signals, or feeling upset that you did not get back what your gave as a friend hurts. Like one of your friends said, is it worth losing a girlfriend, or other friends over a guy that you hardly know.

He was letting you know he felt very comfortable with you, but he is very, very ill, has a complicated life and HECK he was not all that good looking or the age you really wanted in a potential mate the first time you met him.

THey more you saw him, the more he flirted and you enjoyed that, but he knew that is what women like. The better looking and diserable he became.
He liked you, but he is living a life that actually you are too good to fit into. Even if he is ill, he makes poor choices.

The more you see of his personality, the things you liked are the very things that he plays on. You have not dated in years, I have not dated in years, but we look for companionship whether from a spouse or a new man. There is a better way to meet the dream man.

Give yourself credit that you are in morning for a potential relationship that there were high hopes in, with a virtual stranger. He is not trying to hurt you, but he is lacking in the very personality and moral ethics you truely value and the broken heart is learning his flaws.

Give it time and space....things will work out. But I think your hurt is really this is not that man you thought he was.
Di