Breezy,
I have not been in your situation concerning your Mom's diagnosis of final stages of Alzheimers and Parkinson's, and your Dad missing your Mom, as well as just having hip replacement.
I will pray for you, and your family.
Currently, I am facing a stressful situation, as I fly to AZ.,on 7/9/09, and be with my sister(52 yrs. old) as she goes through pancreatic cancer surgery. I think you and I must remember that we are no good to anyone if we are "Flaring"..so, take a breath, pace yourself, and keep some time just for YOU.
I am here for you,

Dew~