Dear BJ,

Perhaps the priest is trying to say something similar to what we say on the board -- baby steps -- take one day at a time.

This is a process that will take lots of small steps mixed in with some big steps. You can't really be in a hurry to get it all solved. And you can't really be in a hurry to figure out how you feel about it.

Your feelings might change from one minute to the next and from one day to the next. That is ok.

So be gentle with yourself.

Find ways to nurture yourself.

Keep talking to us here if it helps.

M.