Jimking you are not failing your wife. I am sure you are her hope and safety. I have that in my mom and it is a great gift. It took me awhile to say I would go to a psych. My mom pushed many times and I would not. I think I thought if the docs would just fix my physical health then my mental would be better. Now this is true but was not happening and how I was dealing with my physical health was not in a good manner. I think I remember you saying how your wife does not like to open up or come here and write but really if she would feel comfortable PM me I am here. I think the more one isolates and makes their world smaller the harder it is to get out of it. I have been trying to push myself to meet new people without conditions like this and let me tell you the fear/anxiety does set in but I know I need to try to push through. Also since the RSD limits ones ability it is important I think on the better days to fill them with as much "normal" as possible so that when the crud days come it does not take such a mental toll.