so you would be yelling at your mom, that you are aspie and she is NT and needs to be calm?
There is something wrong there I dont think it works that way, telling your mom she is nt and should act calm, I dont think that is going to help you any, it might just make your mom mad because you are acting like she should be perfect while your throwing a fit. I still think you should see it as, when you are having a meltdown, and your mom is not able to handle it, she is having her own version of a meltdown. Maybe your mom is part aspie and you just dont see that yet
I would NEVER use my problems as a excuse to act all wild and to have a meltdown or whatever, that is just me, I take resposibility when I act all wild and would never say, "hey I am autistic, it happens", thats just me, I would never do that