Here is my two cents... I think Coley was deeply offended that you took Jacobs side. It was not your intention, but from what you said it sounds like you did. You could have said the same thing in a different tone and it may have sounded more supportive, although it may have not made a difference because Coley is already in a bad place mentally.

Jacob was being pretty rude to do what he did, but its an addition insult when he said "what are you deaf" made Coley feel very vulnerable, he knows he has issues. (Don't get on me about the deaf part, to a kid its still telling him there is something wrong with him).

I am sure he has adults constantly point out where he is wrong, thats how it is for all kids, but having other children do it as well is very demeaning.

From there things just tumbled downwards.


Put yourself in his shoes.

I don't think you should have beat up on Jacob, but it does seem like Coley is on his own and that is a lot to expect from any child, especially one with his own issues.