We absoluely dreaded the day when we had to just step in and say, no...this is what is going to happen. When the child becomes the parent..and the parent knows what's happening it's so hard!! but so necessary. In the long run, both sets of our parents appreciated being relieved of the responsibility for their well being...they needed it to happen. giving up driving was the first to go....It's a struggle I don't envy you Sandy. You are the better judge of when this needs to happen.