Sandy,
This is so hard for you. I haven't been through this...yet. But it is something that I think we all worry about. I pray that comfort will find you and your family soon. We know God has a purpose for all of this... and 'they say' he doesn't give us more on our plate than we can handle. But sometimes, I wish he would give us a platter to deal with it all, instead of piling it on such a small little saucer!
Take care!