Sandy, I'm just now getting to check in on this thread. I hate to hear your mom is still struggling. I know how frustrating it is for her to feel like the quality of her life is slipping away and there's not much she can do about it. It makes them want to dig in their heels even more. I struggle with these issues with my mom and listen to DHs sister who is trying to see to their Mom. It is so sad what aging and illness can take from us before we are ready for it.