Pud's friend - I lov expessions and Bag of sparrows caught my attention. cadge on to yourself was presented to me by my English e-mail friend, DH and I still both use it,

OhKay, Dejibo makes sense. Marriage and intimacy is not just sex. Intimacy can make sex better, but sex is sex, you know. Your Hubby needs to talk with you, the drinking concerns me - is it and the porn band-aids for escape from his life?You can't make his makes changes if he's not on board. Porn, like sex, is more about control then having or thinking sex. You erasing hois porn is just an act that makes you feel better, he can just do it again and be POed at you.
This is a big can of wormsm, perhaps you can find some help or guidance in community. Good luck, this will not always be easy, you must bring awareness and commitment to it.