You know, it kinda sounds like ms is only one of many issues. Money is probably one of the more serious ones. He's hiding his head in the sand about your finances, and even the porn/sex thing is just an escape from the money probs, it seems to me.

He's just not acting very grown up about that. Hasn't he seen that tv commercial where the wrecking ball comes through the house lol?

Men are not apt to talk *Feelings*. They can hardly talk *thoughts*, but if you know what you're doing, you might be able to get him to do that.

(Sorry guys, but this one is at that stage. Having trouble talking)

Stick to one prob at a time. Be calm. Don't get him all huffy. You have to be the mom, the teacher, the grown up. Think of it this way, do you want to be right, or do you want to get want you want?



It's obvious that you are more grown up, than he is, because you are recognising all these problems. and though he is causing a lot of the trouble, you're gonna get stuck getting both of you out of it.

Work on the money thing first. Show him, on paper, how much comes in, how much goes out. What is essential - house, electric, food, gas for car. Write them in red because men are visual.

Stuff you can live without, write in purple or some other girlie color. (you can do with computer, color fonts)

Show him how much you are going in the hole right now.

BUT if you cut out the things you do not need, you will have money left over.



Write that amount in blue.

Circle it. Rip that off and hand it to him.

Then walk away. Leaves him something to think about - what could you do with that money?

Dinner out?

In 3 months, a new tv?

I think if he sees light at the end of the tunnel - even in one area - he will feel less depressed all around.