In similar situations, I feel both sad AND angry, but I'm getting a little less so each time I "miss" something. We're also having the same heat wave (what we up here in the Northeast call more than three days over 85, right?) and I've missed a couple of invites, too.

I used to feel frustrated and angry when I had to say no to something I wanted to do. Now I find that I'm more sad, because I don't really want to do those things, knowing how miserable I'd be, either during or after the fact.

(((karousel))) Empathy coming at you.