WOW Ada, I don't know what to say other than i'm sooo sorry that you have to deal with this on top of everything else you have going off right now!!
My beloved grandad passed away in November last year and that was REALLY hard to deal with but I can't imagine dealing with everything that you are - it must be the hardest thing ever!
Please know that I am thinking about you and your family at this sad time and if you ever need someone to talk to, I am here for you!!
Take care of yourself!