I am only using the word oppositional as a diagnostic term. The therapist thinks he may have oppositional defiance disorder, or he may be oppositionally defiant as part of his bipolar diagnosis.

I think he is hyperactive and fidgety, so a lot of the ADHD stuff fits, but it doesn't take into account how upset he gets over the littlest thing and how it took me an hour and a half to get him to calm down last night after his feelings were hurt when we told him we didn't go to bed when he did because we had things to do.