I have kind of a odd question?

But how is he when sitting watching movies? Or playing video games?

If he can stay on the task of playing the game or watching the whole movie
without interruptions. Then I have a feeling he is more ADD. Even though
you are seeing the hyperactivity and fidgity things.

The oppositional defiant is something that many use. And honestly any child
or young teen that is having problems confroming to the things others wants
get this term. Its something that the schools use a lot.

Personally I believe its used to term the child more than anything.

If you are having trouble getting him to sleep at night, or in the case of
going to bed when you are up. Try melantonin, its a natural herb that
makes us tired and sleepy.

You give it to them about 30 minutes to 1 hour before you want them to
think about going to sleep. You can also then let him think its his idea to
go to sleep. Praise him later for going without you going too.

Make a big deal about this if necessary.

Donna