Dear BJ,
Every one goes through this differently and each day / phase is going to bring a different perspective.

My work friend has support from his wife and some support at work but he is not really talking about it -- just updating us occassionally about what his next appt is or about his next series is.

I'd feel better if you got hooked up with some support groups. You can probably find more than one.
You might find the support of other people to be invaluable.
Also, you can offer the other members of the group your support. That is part of the dynamic of a group of course.



M.