Tracy....WOW I cannot imagine going through all the legal BS that you are having to go through. I wish I had some words of wisdom in the department, but I do not...sorry. I do however have an idea about your family situation. I am very new to RSD and have done some research and bought some books on it. I plan on sending one of the books to my husband in Iraq, so hopefully when he comes home he won't be quite so shocked to coming home to a "different" me. It is a VERY readable book, and does not have a whole bunch of medical jargen that leaves you feeling stupid and like "huh?" Perhaps if you got your mom to read it she might understand a bit more? It's called Living with RSDS, your guide to coping with RSDS and by Linda Land and Peter Moskovitz, MD. Hope this helps even just a little. Hang in there, I know that you're trying.