Welcome to NT
I do believe you, and it is a very bad situation. You're not crazy.
You're among many friends here, with like stories to share.
You have too much to bear alone. You can lean on us.
You do have a lot of abnormal findings on MRIs. I have read and heard a lot of MRI readings (court reporter). Don't have a lot of time this morning but have explained lots of that in old posts in reply to others.
My best suggestion to you is to contact your US Congressperson. Relay the same info as you did here and ask them to help you with your SSD claim. If they're worth your vote, they'll help you. Inform you of what's going on in your case at least. It will come, when I don't know, but with backpay. so be patient. You are deserving of an award. I know you need it now. I hear they're working faster on decisions these days.
You can only eat a whale one bite at a time, and you have a big whale to chew on. You do need a lot of support to help you with your problems. Just take one step at a time. It will take a long time to get straightened out to some kind of normal life for you and your family.
I personally don't know how you're doing what you're doing. You may have to ask other people in your life for some help to get you through. There should be a few willing to help with something. I would be willing to help a family member, neighbor, friend or acquaintance with your situation. I'm sure it comsumes the biggest part of your day trying to figure out how you're going to do what needs to be done. I'm sure it adds to your anxiety and depression state of mind. Vicious cycle. Take relief where you can, if there's any to be had.
We have Big Sandy Valley Transportaiton system here that will take people to doctor appointments and medical facilities for therapy and the like. It's for those who don't have finances and resources. Are you getting all the help you can from sources like that. Meals on wheels, home health aids and nurses - through the health department. Ask them what they have available, then ask them again what they have available. I've found you get different answers.
There was a thread on money saving tips. one was make your own laundry detergent. Might try to find that thread or if someone can help with that please give her the link. It had lots of good tips on it.
Keep in touch and ask us whatever you need to. We'll yak about anything. You'll find this bunch very helpful. We've been through the mills too.