So sorry you are having such a hard time. I'm a mom too, and I know how hard it is to be "peachy" when you are in pain. My RSD flares up much worse the week before my time of the month, and is also bad during the week of. I actually developed PMDD after I had been on Neurontin for a few months. I had horrible anxiety that would keep me up at night, and I struggled with depression that was more that I could handle on my own. My doctor put me on Cymbalta because it is recommended for nerve pain and is an anti-depressant. It has helped a lot. I still get PMS (my 10-year-old who is my oldest of 5 once asked me why I have been so grouchy for the last three days), and the flare-ups, but the mental symptoms are MUCH more bearable.

You should never go through this much misery without consulting your doctor. If he/she won't do anything, you need a new doctor. I really hope you find some relief. Good luck!