I am so sorry for the loss of your dear daughter, prairiemary.
You didn't mention how old she was. Doesn't matter because you are right: we should never have to bury our children.
I am so sorry your husband didn't know how to comfort you or be comforted. Sounds like he just wanted to escape and could, because you took care of everything.
So glad that your daughter helped you to know what songs to use. And those stargazer flowers! They are phenomenal! I haven't seen them bloom here in the southwest.
Praying you will be comforted on this most difficult day.