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Originally Posted by RedPenguins
Hi everyone,
So, I'm not getting any younger (and I feel really old even though rationally I am only 33)... I also have MS and my future seems so rocky and unsure lately.
I really want to have children and don't want to wait much longer. But - I feel REALLY selfish deciding to have children when I am "sick" and don't know what the future holds for me.
Yes, I know that no one knows what the future holds - but with MS, as we know, anything can happen, and chances are - bad things might happen.
I might be really jaded because I grew up with a sick mother (had cancer when I was 9 yrs old - and was sick for 10 years before she died). I HATED having a sick mother - it really sucked. I wouldn't wish my experience on anyone. So - how can I, in good conscience, decide to have children?
Anyone out there thinking about these things? Anyone decide to have children even though they knew they had MS?
Thanks,
Keri
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I think you're wise to think this through. As someone who's chosen not to bring more children into this world, I can tell you I arrived at the decision pre-diagnosis. My circumstances were never really condusive to having kids and when they finally
became condusive, I was past the age where it was statistically optimum for me (or the health of the child) to do so.
That said, the MS diagnosis would have been one more strike against the idea.
Really though, I know people who are fabulous parents in spite of adversity, don't let your illness = exclusively - make your decision.