This is a great discussion and now I'll add my 2 cents

I was DX when my children were 3 and 1(they're 27,25 now) so my MS has always been a part of their lives. After my DX I decided not to have any more children and I have always regretted that decision. I was lucky to feel fine up until the time my kids were through with elementary school but ever since then there have been MS related issues and treatments. Through it all my kids have been supportive, at times resentful, patient and my biggest cheerleaders. Yes they hated having to do chores that their friends might not have had to do but they were glad to have those skills once they left home. I always tried my best to do the things a "normal" mom would do and I think that they knew that I wasn't giving up so they always accepted my limitations and hung in there with me. Today my kids are amazing adults with great strength and compassion. While I couldn't always do everything for or with my kids they always knew that I was there for them. My life had to move at a slower pace but that allowed me to be home and available when they needed my time or attention.

So I guess what I'm saying is that while MS will make you a "different" mother and it may take some things away from you and your child, it will also give you other things in return. Children need to know that they are loved and you sound like someone who can do this. Everything else will come in time. We're human, they're aren't any guarantees just hopes.
Karen