This sounds like a very difficult situation for you.
I have 2 thoughts.
1) have her B12 measured. Low B12 in the elderly mimics dementia. It should be above 500 ideally, but most doctors will tell you that a reading of 200 is "normal". It is not. If your wife uses acid blocking drugs for heartburn, or metformin for glucose control, these drugs deplete and lower B12. This can be very common in older adults. In fact the NIH recommends ALL people over 50 take an oral supplement. We have a sticky on our PN forum about this, and many posts on the Vitamin Forum.
2) the second thing, her incontinence combined with the behaviors:
http://www.emedicinehealth.com/norma...article_em.htm
Normal pressure hydrocephalus is often overlooked, and is not that uncommon. So I would get this evaluated ASAP as it can be treated.
I hope this helps.
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