Dear Barbara,

We are used to telling our secrets to therapists. But regular people do not have the same kind of training that therapists do.

Give him some time.

Probably he needs to be reassured.
I know that sounds silly because you need to be reassured.
But maybe you need to tell him that you have gotten professional help and that you are healing. And that you need him to be ok with the fact that you had some complicated difficulties in the past.

Tell him that you are mostly ok now.
Tell him that in the present you and he can be good together.

My experience with men is that sometimes they think that they are expected to fix things. They can get confused about what their role is.
Tell him what you want from him. And give him some time.

And give yourself time.
It's ok to talk about yourself.


M.