I am soo sorry that you lost your daughter-I know how you feel. I always wonder,is it easier when you have the time to say goodbye,or is it easier all of a sudden,but have decided both ways are awful.Has your husband been by your side thru your grief,and has it affected your marraige somehow? The stargazer connection is so ironic! I am sure that when you are making the wedding flowers,you will have tears,but I think that is such a special way to include your daughter in your son's special day! Do you have other children?I have 2 other daughters,and now have 2 grandsons,but it does not take away the pain of loosing my Amy.